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Title: Real Parents, Real Children ; Parenting the Adopted Child: Parenting the Adopted Child by Holly Van Gulden, Lisa M. Bartels-Rabb ISBN: 0-8245-1514-5 Publisher: Crossroad/Herder & Herder Pub. Date: September, 1995 Format: Paperback Volumes: 1 List Price(USD): $19.95 |
Average Customer Rating: 4 (6 reviews)
Rating: 3
Summary: Too Clinical
Comment: I ordered this book & returned it after glancing through it. It seems too clinical & dry. It seemed like reading a college child development book. I'm sure there's lots of good information in there, but I want something that is easier to apply to my life. I also ordered "Keys to Parenting an Adopted Child" by Kathy Lancaster, and that seems like a better book to start with for me. Obviously, other people have enjoyed this book though - but it wasn't for me at this point in time (we're in the process of adopting an infant from Russia & don't have kids yet).
Rating: 5
Summary: Very helpful book on many adoption fronts
Comment: Gulden and Bartels-Rabb cover a large number of issues that adoptive parents would greatly benefit knowing about, even if some don't apply to their personal situation, such as adoption of an older child and the consequent issue of bonding and attachment and re-naming the child. Also, the book offers a great bibliography. I could identify with several points brought up. Preplacement and postplacement stress (and joy!) is one issue I can still vividly remember. Also the fact that parenting adopted children is, in fact, different from parenting birth children. In our case, I found this to be especially true during the first year of our daughter's life when nature had not prepared me for the arrival of a child. Our daughter was four days old and loved around the clock. However, I found that the difference between her and our two birth children lasted only as long as the milk flowed. After that, I saw three unique individuals, and as the years went by, the issue of adoption was no more a household word than the issue of biological birth. We spoke lovingly of her birthmother and brought her up at special events, yet our daughter, very easy-going in temperament, never seemed to suffer an identity crisis or later, an interest in searching. When her birthmother appeared 29 years later, she began a cordial relationship with her but claims that the reunion has not made her whole while before she was fragmented. She had merely made a new friend. Perhaps our daughter was like the little eleven-year old boy quoted by Gulden and Bartels-Rabb: "You know all those things you've been saying about my birth parents? Well, I've come to the conclusion that those poor suckers lost a good thing." It would be nice if all adopted kids felt as confident, but that's sadly not true.
Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?
Rating: 5
Summary: Super!
Comment: Not only is this a fantastic resource for adoptive parents, but an incredible review of normal childhood development and the grieving process. The authors address all scenerios for adoption (foreign, domestic, cross-cultural, from infancy and beyond, from foster care, etc.) in a clear and informative way. The research into this book must have been phenomenal. Recommended reading for parents well into the process as well as prospective parents. It's both honest and hopeful. Bravo!
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Title: Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition : Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent by Lois Ruskai Melina ISBN: 0060957174 Publisher: Perennial Pub. Date: 01 August, 1998 List Price(USD): $13.95 |
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Title: Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge ISBN: 044050838X Publisher: Dell Pub. Date: 12 October, 1999 List Price(USD): $13.95 |
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Title: Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best ISBN: 0944934218 Publisher: Perspectives Press Pub. Date: November, 1998 List Price(USD): $15.00 |
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Title: Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents by Deborah D. Gray ISBN: 0944934293 Publisher: Perspectives Press Pub. Date: 30 April, 2002 List Price(USD): $24.95 |
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Title: Talking With Young Children About Adoption by Mary Watkins, Susan Fisher ISBN: 0300063172 Publisher: Yale Univ Pr Pub. Date: March, 1995 List Price(USD): $18.00 |
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