Order from a Major Online Bookstore
Ultimate Book Price Comparison Engine
Save Your Time And Money
| AnyBook4Less.com | Order from a Major Online Bookstore |
|
| Home | Store List | FAQ | Contact Us | | ||
| Ultimate Book Price Comparison Engine Save Your Time And Money |
||
 |
Title: Talking With Young Children About Adoption by Mary Watkins, Susan M. Fisher ISBN: 0-300-05178-6 Publisher: Yale Univ Pr Pub. Date: August, 1993 Format: Hardcover Volumes: 1 List Price(USD): $30.00 |
Average Customer Rating: 4.38 (8 reviews)
Rating: 5
Summary: Authoritative and enlightening
Comment: Both authors instilled confidence in me because they themselves are adoptive mothers and are seeing the issue from the inside out. I wish I had had a book such as this when we adopted our child in 1969 at age 4 days. I was completely in the dark as to when and how to tell our little girl about her adoption. I only knew that she had to be told and presumed that it should be as early as possible. Watkins's and Fisher's book give the adoptive parent(s) helpful guidelines in understanding (anticipating) the young adoptee's questions and concerns and are encouraged to be as natural as possible talking to their children any time the children bring up the topic. I would like mention one research study that tells us when we can expect adoptees truly to understand the notions of birth and adoption. In their book, Openness in Adoption, Exploring Family Connections, Harold D. Grotevant and Ruth G. McRoy found that the mean age of children NOT understanding the meaning of adoption is 5.8, age range 4.9-8.8; the mean age of children fusing the two concepts of adoption and birth is 6.4, age range 4.7-9.6; only at the mean age of 7.5, age range 4.7-12.9, do children clearly differentiate between adoption and birth as alternative paths to parenthood and accept that the adoptive family relationship is permanent, but do not understand why; children at a mean age of 8.9, age range 5.4-11.9, differentiate between adoption and birth but are unsure about the permanence of the adoptive parent-child relationship. The children at this age fear that the natural parents might reclaim them. At the mean age of 9.5, age range 6.6-12.6 the children vaguely understand that their relationship with their adoptive parents is permanent because a judge, lawyer, doctor or social worker signed some papers. Only at the mean age of 10.5, age range 8.0-12.1, is the adoption relationship fully understood with its characterized permanency.
Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?
Rating: 3
Summary: good for anyone adopting
Comment: Well, I had gotten through almost half of the book and was about to stop reading it when it started to get better. The first half was a bunch of detailed psychological text book information that, for the most part, I did not agree with or care about- not much fact- just opinions. The second part did save it giving detailed examples and stories of real people and their adopted children: how to communicate to the children, how children communicate about their adoption, feelings of adoptees and adoptive parents, what children might be concerned about at different ages, etc. I would definitely say that it is a good book to refer to when communicating to young children.
Rating: 5
Summary: Read ASAP if you have an adopted baby or child!
Comment: In my opinion, you can't read this book too early. As a matter of fact, the earlier the better.
The first thing I realized in reading this book is how young the children are/can be when they start talking and asking questions about their adoption. They're beginning around the age of three in many cases! Our son is 15 months old now and I thought I'd have several years to read this book when in reality I need to be introducing him to the word "adoption" and other phrases about our adopting him now so that he's familiar with the words by the time he can understand them.
The book gives numerous stories of children and how they ask questions and talk about their adoption. What things are important to them to know. How they talk to their friends about adoption. How we as parents need to be truthful right from the very beginning. Explaining why the parents look different from the child. Talking about their tummy-mommy and who she is and why she let someone else adopt him/her. And how the children like to act out the day their parents first saw them (hundreds of times!) and how to deal with that when the child wants to alter the story.
It also addresses the issue of parents who decide not to tell their children about adoption.
This book will give adoptive parents ideas on how to talk (what to say exactly) to their children when they ask some difficult questions. Kids are smart! They ask thorough questions about their adoption and many times they'll ask the questions years before we think they will.
This book has helped me to prepare for my son's questions, whenever they come, and has helped me to see that it's okay to be "freaked out" at the idea of talking to him about it. It's put my mind at ease because now I have a better sense of what to say and how to say it. When to say it is up to your child. We don't have a lot of choice in the matter. When they want to know, they want to know! Or they may think we're hiding something bad from them. This book will help you along the path of discussion and prepare you for some questions and feelings your adopted child may have.
Excellent book for all adoption situations!
 |
Title: Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge ISBN: 044050838X Publisher: Dell Pub. Date: 12 October, 1999 List Price(USD): $13.95 |
 |
Title: The Day We Met You by Phoebe Koehler ISBN: 0689809646 Publisher: Aladdin Library Pub. Date: 01 May, 1997 List Price(USD): $5.99 |
 |
Title: LifeBooks : Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child by Beth O'Malley ISBN: 0970183275 Publisher: Adoption-Works Pub. Date: 22 June, 2000 List Price(USD): $13.95 |
 |
Title: Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition : Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent by Lois Ruskai Melina ISBN: 0060957174 Publisher: Perennial Pub. Date: 01 August, 1998 List Price(USD): $13.95 |
 |
Title: Over the Moon : An Adoption Tale by Karen Katz ISBN: 0805050132 Publisher: Henry Holt & Company, Inc. Pub. Date: 15 September, 1997 List Price(USD): $16.95 |
Thank you for visiting www.AnyBook4Less.com and enjoy your savings!
Copyright� 2001-2021 Send your comments
