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Title: We Adopted a Dusty Miller: One Family's Journey with an Attachment Disorder Child by Phyllis Bosley ISBN: 0-595-13257-X Publisher: Authors Choice Press Pub. Date: 01 October, 2000 Format: Paperback Volumes: 1 List Price(USD): $9.95 |
Average Customer Rating: 4.5 (2 reviews)
Rating: 5
Summary: You Can't Change a Miller Into a Butterfly
Comment: Mrs. Bosley presents this small,but remarkable book to
help others.Mainly parents who may not be aware of certain
difficulties encountered when adopting an older child,or
one who was hard to place in a family.
Rather,than scare adoptive parents,I think this will
enlighten them.They will be quicker to ask for help with a
child with an Attachment Disorder,and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.
Mrs. Bosley regrets some of the old-fashioned advice
regarding her daughter.She wishes she listened to a Mothers
instinct and held her during tantrums,although she was
told to let the chid work it out.
Education was stressed,and the importance of a diploma.
But a child who never develops social skills is at a total
loss in our society,where first you must communicate and
understand other people.
Anna was probably given more than her adoptive mother realizes.
I thought it was miraculous Mrs. Bosley's marriage held
together,and her older sons remained unscarred by the
upheavel of bring Anna into their midst.
Futher,I commend the telling of this story,so another
family will not feel they have failed.She continues to be
an advocate and facilitator of a support group for other
parents whose chidren have this double diagnosis.
I hope she lets us know how Anna continues in her Adult
life,if there is progress with age and training.
Rating: 4
Summary: Admire These Parents' Tenacity RE: Older Adopted Kid
Comment: See those maudlin TV movies where someone adopts a rejected, older kid and flowers bloom at the end? Any parent in the real world, battling the real issues, knows what a lightweight farce those kind of scripts are. You're literally in the trenches, under siege.
Older adopted kids can be a godsend, as any adopted child can be -- but if they come from troubled, dysfunctional homes, with bad genetics, you are on a collision course to heartache. I bought this book to affirm my own journey with a disturbed teenage girl, who has lived with us for three years, and now is transitioning to a new home. If the disturbed child is a good actor or actress, other adults like sympathetic counselors and teachers will be completely bamboozled. They will assume you're the problem. Charges of false abuse can happen, too. You may feel isolated and alone, especially if you don't have access to superior attachment therapists who see beyond the manipulations of such disturbed children. If you're seen the movie, "Primal Fear," and Edward Norton's performance as the meek, accused murderer, who finally unveils his true calculating self at the end -- that's a disturbed child in a nutshell.
What prospective adoptive parents need to realize, is that emotional and psychological damage within the first three years of life, to a developing, vulnerable baby, can ruin their soul. Neglectful, abusive parenst can do so much damage. Know what you're getting into. Be optimistic, trust God, but buy this first-hand account of what can happen, when the child refuses to attach to a parent. I admire the parents of this story a lot. They kept trying, no matter how hellish it got. Their stories echoed what happened to my family when we tried to help a disturbed child. It is an incredible commitment. Even with all your love, your Herculean efforts to help, to heal, to emotionally connect, unless the adoptive child wants it, it will not happen. I do not mean to be so pessimistic. This book hit a nerve because it sounded a lot like our experiences. Good luck if you're adopting, read a cautionary tale or two, like this one, in addition to the sunny portrayals of life headed toward the sunset. Abide by the cliche, "prepare for the worst, hope for the best."
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Title: Another Place at the Table: A Story of Shattered Childhoods Redeemed by Love by Kathryn Harrison, Kathy Harrison ISBN: 1585422002 Publisher: Jeremy P. Tarcher Pub. Date: 14 April, 2003 List Price(USD): $23.95 |
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Title: Dandelion on My Pillow, Butcher Knife Beneath by Nancy Thomas, Terena Thomas, Beth Thomas ISBN: 0970352522 Publisher: Families by Design Pub. Date: 01 October, 2002 List Price(USD): $19.95 |
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Title: When Love is Not Enough : A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD - Reactive Attachment Disorder by Nancy L. Thomas ISBN: 0970352506 Publisher: Families by Design Pub. Date: April, 1997 List Price(USD): $12.00 |
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Title: Like Family: Growing Up in Other People's Houses: A Memoir by Paula McLain ISBN: 0316597422 Publisher: Little, Brown Pub. Date: March, 2003 List Price(USD): $23.95 |
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Title: ORPHANS OF THE LIVING : STORIES OF AMERICAS CHILDREN IN FOSTER CARE by Jennifer Toth ISBN: 068484480X Publisher: Free Press Pub. Date: 02 July, 1998 List Price(USD): $13.00 |
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